What Do You Tell Yourself?

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What do you tell yourself when you wake up first thing in the morning? Do you believe what ever you say to yourself takes a negative and positive impact on your Life? How well do you deal with Issues, Problems and other challenges you face in life?

Each and every individual on this earth has got one way or the other, a problem to deal with. In our walk of life, we are bound to face challenges but in the midst of all the adversities, God promises us victory to stand tall. In every encounter that you make; you either give life or drain life out of it. Words are everything to life. So we have to be mindful of the words we utter. Just because you are not who you thought you would be in life, doesn’t mean you should bring upon yourself curses, with the words you speak out. What we, as humans, need to understand is that, the brain does not control the mind, the mind does. The brain and the mind obviously have an intimate relationship, but the mind is different: it is a collection of thoughts, patterns, perceptions, beliefs, memories and attitudes. Based on the research I made, concerning how the brain and the mind works is that;

A human brain works on “thought patterns”, which are nothing but “programming” that has been indented into its neural network. You can also observe a definite “pattern” in some of the thoughts that are produced in the brain. For example, it’s possible that your brain is presently in the habit of creating a pattern of negative thinking, where it seems to give a negative flavor/connotation to all its interpretations – in this case your brain is subconsciously in the habit of looking at reality in a negative manner and at the root of all its negative thinking is a subconscious belief in some “core” negative thoughts.

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You must understand that subconscious patterns are always running in “auto” mode in the brain, because at some point you took these patterns to be the truth of your life and invested belief in them to the point where they became “ingrained” patterns.

When you think a thought long enough, it automatically goes into “auto” mode because the neural pathways for this thought become strongly embedded in the neural network of your brain. For example, when you learn to drive a car it’s a very conscious effort initially, but after a few months the patterns become so embedded in the brain that the whole action of driving becomes subconscious or “auto” mode.

Certain negative thoughts are running in “auto” mode in your brain, and these negative thoughts are usually the root cause of many negative perceptions and interpretations that you come up with in your daily life. Unless you identify and let go of belief in these subconscious negative thoughts, you will constantly be struggling with the negativity in your brain. A simple awareness of the subconscious negative patterns is enough to start becoming free of them.

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5 Things To Tell Yourself Each Day

1: Today will be my day

2:I am the Best Me there is.

3: I know that I’m a winner.

4: I can do it, I know I can.

5: God will always be with me

Finally, i want to urge you to be very mindful of your utterances because whatever you tell yourself works for your own good. Oh Yes! Ok fine! How about, you reminding yourself each and everyday that, you are a winner, an over-comer and a conqueror? It does work. Take control of your destiny, let every word that comes out from your mouth, speak life into the dead and most above all, make sure your words are sincere and true. Live a happy life and Enjoy yourself with the words you speak.

A Heart To Forgive!!

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What is forgiveness? Why do we Forgive? Of what essence will that be? Why should you possibly forgive your enemies, the critics around you? Many a times, this are some of the questions we ask ourselves but what we need to understand is that, forgiveness is a direction from God.

Forgiveness means letting go of past hurts, disappointments, bitterness and hatred, cause by the people around us. Forgiveness becomes difficult when the offender is a person we never thought could hurt us. Forgiving others may seem to be a choice, and in one sense it is a choice, but God has been very clear about forgiveness. He has given us specific direction in numerous Scriptures, all of which can be summed up in just one word — forgive! God’s Word says, “And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins” (Mark 11:25). “Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven” (Luke 6:37). Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude!

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God in His own infinite wisdom and power made it clear to us that, it is in our own best interest to forgive! Forgiveness opens every closed doors in our life. It is the “Breath Of Life”. Forgiveness attracts blessings and favor from the Most High. God is not talking about what is in the best interest of the person who needs to be forgiven. We are the ones who God is trying to protect. And besides, when we forgive, We are the ones who mostly benefit from forgiveness, not the other person. An unforgiven spirit complicates and compromises our daily walk with God. Forgiving others releases us from anger and allows us to receive the healing we need. The whole reason God has given us specific direction is because He does not want anything to stand between us and Him. God’s love for us is unconditional, it has no filth. It is clean and strong. Forgiving others spares us from the consequences of living out of an unforgiving heart. Forgiveness heals every wounds. It restores happiness and makes way for the blessing of God.

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And below is a Parable, Jesus told His Disciples On what forgiveness meant.

The Parable Of the Unforgiving Servant

(Matthew 18:21-35)

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, If my brother keeps on sinning against me, how many times do i have to forgive him? Seven times? “No, not seven times, answered Jesus, “but seven times seven, because the kingdom of heaven is like this. Once there was a king who decided to check on his servants’ accounts. He had just begun to do so when one of them was brought in who owed him millions of pounds. The servant did not have enough to pay his debt, so the king ordered him to be sold as a slave, with his wife and his children and all that he had, in order to pay the debt. The servant fell on his knees before the king, ‘Be patient with me,’ he begged, ‘and i will pay you everything!. The king felt sorry for him, so he forgave him the debt and let him go. “Then the man went out and met one of his fellow-servants who owed him a few pounds. He grabbed him and started choking him. ‘Pay back what you owe me!’ he said. His fellow-servant fell down and begged him, ‘Be patient with me, i will pay you back! But he refused; instead, he had him thrown into jail until he should the debt. When the other servants saw what had happened, they were very very upset and went to the king and told him everything. So he called the servant in. ‘You worthless slave!’ he said. ‘I forgave you the whole amount you owed me, just because you asked me to. You should have had mercy on your fellow-servant, just as i had mercy on you.’ The king was very angry, and he sent the servant to jail to be punished until he should pay back the whole amount.” And Jesus concluded, “That is how my Father in heaven will treat everyone of you unless you forgive your brother from your heart.

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Forget the people who make you sad or hurt you. Don’t let them affect you. But never forget what they taught you. The choices you make, the struggles you face prepares you for life. And also remember that, anyone can hold a grudge, but it takes a person with character to forgive. When you forgive, you release yourself from a painful burden. Forgiveness doesn’t mean what happened was OK, it doesn’t mean, the person should still be welcomed in your life. It just means you have made peace with the pain. Let Go and Receive the blessings of the Lord. He is ever ready to show you His unconditional love, His Grace, and Power. Just Forgive and Forget. God loves you and He is ready to forgive you if you forgive anyone who sins against you. The Beauty of God’s Love surpasses all earthly things. Live in Peace. Let love lead.

Where Talent Lies! An African Reproach.

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Firstly, I want to share with you, a very pathetic message I received from a follower on facebook.

Hello Sammy,

I’m Harriet, a graduate of Ghana Senior High School, Koforidua. I completed last year. Please I have always had a dream of becoming a fashion designer, since childhood but my father insisted that, he wants me to work as an accountant. For me that’s not my field. The reason been that, I am not academically good. I was repeated three times when i got to my second year in high school. It all began sometime ago, at age 10, when i spotted a child being beaten mercilessly by his teacher, just because he failed in his examination; this instilled fear in me. So since then, i developed this strange fear for my teachers in school. So this caused my failure in class anytime i partake in an examination. But my Dad doesn’t know all this, so all he keeps saying is that “Harriet you know I’m an educationist, look at me, I have three B.Sc. three Master’s degree and a PhD to show. So why don’t you take my footsteps, learn hard and become what i want you to be? If all the time you spend on daily in making this rubbish, were converted to your academic work, by now, you would have been on a very good pedestal. Life is not a joke and without a good results, you are going nowhere.”

Ever since he uttered those words to me, i haven’t being myself, i spend time crying, asking myself if, he is really my biological Dad. why can’t he forget about qualifications and support what i do best in; my passion for being a Fashion designer. He even went ahead to burn all the materials i use for my craft. I feel terrible now. I even won an award for “The Most Creative Student” because of my craft but my Dad got hold of it and destroyed it, saying, he wanted me to win an award for “The Best Overall Student” in school”. In fact, I feel horrible, I give up. I feel like committing suicide. Please Help Me.”

Indeed Parents are in the right position to direct the path of their Children but should we always pay heed to whatever decision they take concerning our lives, i mean our career? So what if that isn’t our chosen field? Will it be a sign of disrespect if a child refuses to take whatever career they choose for him/her. After reading this sad story, I became very worried.. Why do some Parent decide to render their wards useless by choosing a job field for them. Parents are to train, take a very good care of, ensure the well-being of their wards but not to choose for them, a job field. Children must be allowed to choose their career path in life. They know the capabilities/skills they possess.

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Life as we see it, is not a joke. Each and every individual has a purpose to live for, a dream/goal to achieve and a mission to accomplish on this earth. Nobody was created without a purpose or a dream. I was watching a movie some weeks ago which actually talks about the pains and ordeals children go through in the hands of their Parents in the quest for a career path. And in this movie, there was a girl whose dad was a Professor and her mother a businesswoman, and this said girl in question, had the gift/talent of making beads and weaving beautiful baskets but her Dad insisted saying “None of my Children must become poor, its either, you change your mind and find something better doing in life, or you leave my house”. This went on and on, until, one day, the girl couldn’t bear the agony she was going through and committed suicide. So then, whose fault was it? Who caused it? Was it her Dad or herself?

American educator, author, businessman, and keynote speaker, Stephen Covey, in one of his Inspirational quote said “when you engage in a work that taps your talent and fuels your passion-that rises out in a great need in the world that you feel drawn by conscience to meet-therein lies your voice, your calling, your soul’s code”.

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Parents need to understand that, you don’t have to be a Doctor, an Accountant or a Teacher to be successful, being a Fashion Designer, a Writer, Musician, can make you Successful. It all depends on how diligent you are with your work.

A Message to the Youth

Your time is limited. So don’t waste it living someone Else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma- which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Never let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most importantly, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Hard work and determination will show your Altitude in life. Never be discouraged. Take control of your destiny. You have a lot to bless the world with; your gifts, skill and all that you have inside of you. You are destined to reign. Follow your passion and you will achieve. You Can..You Will..